I want to talk a little bit about marriage today. Give me opinions if you like. I encourage and I like to see what other people think. As a woman who has been married for nearly 20 years, you tend to have gone through a lot. Saying that I believe in the bible. Let me explain. I made a covenant (contract) in front of God to be married through sickness and good health, for rich and for poorer until death do us part. I never promise these things to my husband. I promised them to the lord. He is who I truly put in front of my home so that I have the strength to deal with all that is coming my way..... And it usually is a lot....lol
Being this said, I have always seen myself as a very opinionated woman with my own vision as to how a marriage should be. I believe in order to be respected by your spouse, you need to respect him first. Do not give him a reason to have an upper hand on you... If I yell first , I am just invited him to yell as well. If I argue first , then I am just invited him to argue.... etc, etc,,,.... It's like opening the door to the devil. I am in no means trying to tell you to be a wuss... But all you do has to be judged by God... Jesus came and die for the remission of our sins and because of this fact is why you need to be very careful how you address issues in your marriage. Everything you do is consider in the day when we are to be resurrected in the new Heaven...Why on earth would you allow anyone even your husband to let you stray from your crown of glory.
There are so many times that I have wanted to just pack up and go but, as I attempted todo so, something always held be back and instead, I choose to read my bible and pray for forgiveness and understanding and best of all wisdom to deal with the cituation at hand that was causing me to want to leave in the first place.You can only save yourself. No matter how hard you try, your spouse has to want to be in God's presence for his blessing. We all do not get our blessing together . All we can do is pray for one another....As a woman we are built to deal with a lot. Our bodies are physically stronger and our minds even better. Our abilities to fix any problem that comes your way is a gift from God. Do not think that you are all that and a bag of chips, although we are all perfect in God's eyes. To say that you are not perfect is like saying God is a liar. Your choices and decisions are not perfect but you as an individual are perfect cause we are all made through the vision of our lord .Do not ever doubt yourself. Your spouse no matter how negative he can be can never put you down or make you feel like crap because you are perfect and you father up above loves you.
I had been married before, I was in an abusive relationship that I stayed in because I misunderstood what marriage was about. I had never read the bible before therefore I was being mistreated very badly and in return I was mistreating an individual as well. I had a way out. You know when it is a blessing when you leave the transition is smooth. No fights , no arguments . Everything is there for you. A job, a home, and your family.... The most important thing... My kids were always my strength. I thank god for them. Without them I would not have seen the light . Who knows I might have been dead by now, so I thank God for saving me.
Allowing me to find a husband whom I can respect and love dearly .
Here is a joke after all this seriousness...
" If you Marry a Pennsylvania Girl..."
Three friends married women from different parts of the country.
The first man married a woman from Utah. He told her that she was to do the dishes and house cleaning. It took a couple of days, but on the third day, he came home to see a clean house and dishes washed and put away.
The second man married a woman from Louisiana. He gave his wife orders that she was to do all the cleaning, dishes and cooking. The first day he didn't see any results, but the next day he saw it was better. By the third day he say his house was clean, the dishes were done and there was a huge dinner on the table. The third man married a girl from Pennsylvania. He ordered her to keep the house cleaned, dishes washed, lawn mowed, laundry washed and hot meals on the table for every meal. He said the first day he didn't see anything, the second day he didn't see anything, but the third day, some of the swelling had gone down and he could see a little out of his left eye, and his arm was healed enough that he could fix himself a sandwich and load the dishwasher. He still has some difficulties when he pees...
Have a bless day and thanks for reading....
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